There is a video (embedded below) that presents individuals who were Orthodox and broke free. It is touching to see individuals so tightly regulated and oppressed choosing freedom and a brighter future.
The video has been posted on a number of blogs today, including Frum Satire and Failed Messiah. I greatly enjoyed the reaction of many commenters*. Too often, the response to an otherwise-excellent Unpious article or Better Know A Kofer entry is a visceral angry reaction by commenters. "How could you go OTD? Two thousand years of tradition!" blah blah blah. The commenters are nearly blind to the fact that life in ultra-OJ environments is usually very harsh and restrictive. Those who leave may not be chasing cheeseburgers and never-ending sex. Instead, they may simply want a better life; a proper education, a legitimate, honourable source of income, an Internet connection, or (horrors) a TV. Although these are possible within a Jewish framework, these folks have so often been told that anything less extreme than their Amish lifestyle is treif. They can hardly be blamed for making what is seen by some as an unnecessary decision.
This video can help those in the Orthodox community to begin to see the culprits less as those who left and more those who are responsible for perpetuating such an unearthly lifestyle (I'm looking at you, Lakewood and Agudah). OJ's love to blame the victim and attack those who have left for making what they see as an irresponsible decision. They ignore the reality that these persons have endured a lot of anguish and misery merely by being raised in an intolerant, arrogant community that prefers to live in the 1300's. This video shocks them out of their lethargy by showing seemingly well-adjusted, happy individuals in their repressive earlier lives and then even happier and more well-adjusted in their emancipated second lives. It's hard to continue stereotyping and cruelly envisioning expats as deranged, sadistic freaks when their smiling countenances stare you in the face. The reality becomes hard to ignore that Orthodoxy better modernize - or risk even more of their brightest and best wisely choosing to have nothing at all to do with it.
Don't get with the times because it's the right thing to do. Do so because it'll keep your kids on the derech.
*particularly the comments by Ilanit and Ken.